6 1/2 years coming..

Coming thursday will mark the 6 1/2 years of the courtship between gerald and myself. And of course, that exclude the 3 years before our actual courtship. Haha... time really flies... thinking back of the days that we have spent together, from school days, to working life, to when Gerald went back to school days again, and now, he is finally back with the workforce, we have gone through much as a couple.

Many of the friends around me always asked me, how I manage to maintain the relationship after such a long time. For many of my JC buddies, many of them had actually gotten a relationship during JC and Uni days, but yet, most of them have already broken up. Of course, not all are bad. Around me there are many couples who are marathon runners, like Kenneth and Huiqin, Isaiah and Klessis, Edwin and Evelyn... (in case you are not aware, these couples have dated 10 years, or close to that already!)

So i really asked myself, what is the X-factor?? Finally i realised.

These are all God fearing couples. They are all serving God faithfully, and of course, their relationship are built of the foundation of God. Isn't that amazing? God is not only concerned about our spiritual walk with him, but He is also constantly concerned with every aspect of our daily lives, be it our career, relationship with people, and etc etc etc... this really reminded me of Matthew 6:35 - Seek ye first the Kingdom of God, and all his righteousness shall be added onto you. Indeed, when we put God first in our lives, God will simply ensure that every other thing of our lives will nicely fall into place.

I think back of the days where how Gerald and myself first got to know each other, and then later fell in love until today. Indeed, it was really God who create that divine meeting at Tiong Bahru Plaza on that saturday afternoon, at the bus stop opposite Tiong Bahru Plaza. Never did I imagine, that having lost contact for a year or more already, that God would create a chance for us to meet again. If that afternoon we did not meet each other, frankly speaking, I would not want to think what would I be doing today.

You may wonder why I say that. It was after meeting Gerald that saturday, that he subsequently invited me to City Harvest Church. At that time, despite I have already acccepted Christ for more than 1 year ago when I was in JC2, but I have never attended any church service at all. In my heart, somehow or rather, I have already back slided from God. I still remember that first service that I attended service on a saturday at our old Hollywood premise.When I was on my way home after the service, I felt this joy that was really bursting out of me. And I was already looking forward to the next service the following sunday. I knew I have found the place of joy, and I knew that was the place that I wanted to be.

And there, I have been in CHC for the past 6 years. I have never once thought of going to another church, cos I knew this church is where I would be for the rest of my lives. I have found my meaning in life, found my joy, found my peace and most importantly, I have found my most faithful friend, Lord Jesus Christ!

Oops, think I have diverted from my original topic. But anyway, I am glad and glad that Gerald has brought me to this church. So, i believe from the bottom of my heart, as Gerald and Myself continue to put God first and let God be the one to take control and nourish our relationship, we will be like that flowers that will blossom and be forever in love with each other.

So my friends, do not be anxious to seek your partner. Continue to seek God and serve Him, and God is a rewarder. He will definitely reward you with a precious Gem that you will never imagine. I have found my GEM. So you definitely can do it too!

A month full of weddings...

Phew! this June is really a busy month for me... not in my work.. but busy attending weddings! Never in my life did I receive so many wedding invitations that are all falling within 2 weeks ( I have a total of 5, and 2 actually fall on the same day! )


Nevertheless, though my purse seems to be much much lighter this month, yet, at the same time, I am so happy to see my friends finding their life time partner. Seeing them walking down the aisle with the blissful smiles on their faces, it just bring a touch of loveliness and warmth in my heart. At those moments, I could almost feel their joy, and their anxiousness and their heartbeats beating away... these are friends that I have known for years, especially for Weiping and Christina (they have actually known each other for 11 Years! and throughout all these years, God continue to show himself faithful in their relationship and just draw the 2 of them together to start the next chapter of their lives. Another lovely couple is none other than my secondary school buddy, Serene and Peter. Though I never knew Peter personally, but I can always see the beam of love shining from Serene's face whenever she mention Peter. And of course, on her wedding day itself, I could almost feel my tears sipping out of the corner of my eyes, as the 2 of them recite their vows, vowing to take each other as their husband/wife.


Of course, where there is union of lives, there is also separation. I got to know of a couple who started dating since JC-1 days. So if you do your mathematics, this is a couple who have been together for almost 9 years. Yet, the sad truth is that after 9 years of courtship, they decided to call it a day. And all because of the word Committment!


Within a span of 2 weeks, I truly see how commitment can be such a dangerous word. No wonder so many people are so so afraid of this word. In our daily lives, we can see so many different cases of people, who decide to drop out of what they are doing, because they want to be free. They do not want to be committed to the things they are doing, or the relationship that they are in, or the faith and God that they believe in.


People are so afraid to commit, because they do not want to tie themselves down, because they want to sought after the freedom which they consider to be able to do what they like at when they want to. Yet, what joy is it to enjoy such freedom, when you have no one to share the joy with you? I can never never understand couples who find themselves so estranged in a relationship, and they begin to get so frustrated, because they are not able to get what they want out of the relationship.


There are also some people on this planet earth, who can give loads and loads of excuses, just to explain themselves why they should not be committed to what they are doing. To me, sorry to say, its loads of craps! Staying committed is a decision and a conviction. Its much easier to stay committed than to find excuses to cover yourself on why you should not be committed, don't you agree??


But to me, who ever told you that in a relationship, you are to be like a sponge and just keep taking from your partner, you will find that you will never be satisfied in the relationship. Until you start to learn to give in a relationship, you will never truly understand the meaning of LOVE. Pastor Kong always say this, You can give without loving, but you cannot love without giving. When you truly love someone, you will have no qualms about giving to him/her, to make him/her happy.



I know my dear, Gerald, does not read my blog. But still, I just want to tell him (just in case one day he decide to read), Thanks Dear, for loving me, for giving in to me whenver i throw tantrums during my stress period. Thanks Dear, for always giving me surprises whenever I feel sad and U never fail to know how to make me happy. Love ya love ya...:-)